Absent From Our Own Wedding


Montana is the only place in the world where double proxy weddings are legal. Absent From Our Own Wedding looks at how and why a marriage takes place when neither the bride nor groom are present.

Jasmin is in Southern Italy. Aaron is in Wiesbaden, Germany. They’ve just been married. Even though they are 863 miles apart. And the wedding was in Montana, USA. Montana is a state where ‘proxy weddings’ are legal. You can get married without your spouse being in the room. In fact neither of you need to be there and that’s what ‘Absent from Our Own Wedding’ revolves around – a ‘double proxy wedding’ where both the bride and groom have proxies standing in for them as the ceremony is performed.

The film is a rounded exploration of what actually matters in weddings and marriage. What’s really important?

Absent from Our Own Wedding was commissioned by Adam Gee at Little Dot Studios and shot in Montana in August 2017.

Read about it in The Guardian

Directed and Produced by Debbie Howard.
Exec Produced by Gillian Mosley at MediaLab.
Director of Photography Emma Dalesman.
Editor Siena Bevan.
Online Editor Dani Jacobs.
Researcher Hannah Grencis.

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